Learn to accept your Mistakes..!

After having made a mistake most of us deny it, get defensive,blame others and beat them.We start giving excuses. When we make an error, most of us fall into one of these- those who have a fixed mind set and assure themselves ..Damn!!! I will be never good at it...and shut the mistake completely, and there are those who view this error as a wake-up-call, identifying their mistakes and improving on the same.

In our lifetime, there's only one time to correct your mistakes and that's when you admit you are wrong. Embracing the mistake is one of the surest ways to correct your mistake. Do accept your mistakes rather than arguing and showing as if you are perfect.Only our creator is perfect and no one beside him. Take a deep breath and acknowledge your mistake. We can't always aim at being correct. Mistakes help you to learn the best. Think of trial and error learning. With no trial,there's no error and no learning. Hence mistakes imply learning a lesson.
            Thomas Edison tried two thousand different elements in search for the right filament for the bulb before getting the right one. His assistant said, "All our work in vain. We learned nothing". Edison confidently replied that we have come a long way and learned a lot. We know those 2000 elements that cannot be used as a filament for the bulb.

How to accept mistakes and learn from them??

• Never lie:- A lie can save you temporarily but truth revealed later or sooner will lead you into a serious trouble.
• Do not hide your feelings or problems from your parents:-They have been from what you are going through, so they will help you solve your problems.
• Accept your mistakes and promise yourself to do better next time.
• Don't cry over things like being busted by your girl/boy friend or failing in exams:-Accept it and start a new life.
• Avoid excuses or false promises:-These are very annoying.
• Make a list of your mistakes and  try to change for the better.
• Ask your true friends to advice you and give you feedback.
• Don't think you are foolish when you make a mistakes:-Keep a positive attitude.

Mistakes are valuable teachers.Do not dwell on past mistakes,learn from them instead.

Typhoid Mary

This is the story of Typhoid Mary, a lady who suffered despite of committing no mistake. Let's see why....

Mary Mallon , born Sept 23, 1869 in Cookstown, Ireland , seemed to be a healthy lady. She was a cook by profession. She was accused to be the reason behind typhoid outbreaks in the US. It is said that she had infected 51 people , 3 of whom died in her career as a cook. She had no idea of why all this was happening , and so she decided to fight back. She died after spending nearly three decades in isolation.

In 1906 summer break, Charles Henry Warren wanted to go for a vacation with his family. They rented a home in Oyester Bay, Long Island. They hired Mary Mallon as cook. After some days, Warren's daughter became ill with typhoid fever. Following this, Warren's wife , maid and gardener also became ill with the same disease. Warrens were afraid that they would not be able to  move any further without finding out the cause. The Thompsons ( from whom Warens rented their house ) hired George Soper, a civil engineer who was expert in this field.

Soper investigated the case and had a doubt on Mary. He called for Mary's work history. And yes, he was right. There were cases of typhoid earlier in homes where Mary worked as a cook. A girl even died of this. Soper was sure that this could not be a coincidence. But now what he needed was 'Proof'. So , he went to the place where Mary was currently working. He accused her of being a cause of typhoid outbreaks and asked for blood samples. Mary, enraged by this , threatened Soper with a fork knife and told him that he was unwelcomed.

Soper gave the charge of the investigation to Herman Biggs. Biggs sent Baker to talk to Mallon. Mallon was taken to a hospital in New York where the samples were taken. And the result was - Typhoid bacilli was found in her stool. Mary was soon held without trial, though she had not broken any laws. She was actually a healthy carrier of the 'Typhoid disease -i.e. a person who seems to be healthy but can cause many diseases. Mary was soon released on the condition that she would change her occupation. Mary was set free.

5 years later......
There was a typhoid outbreak in New York. Around 25 people were ill and one of them died. The accused was Ms. Brown , a cook. Ms. Brown was actually Mary, who was using a different name.Mary was sent to an isolated cottage and spent 23 more years in isolation.

In December 1932, Mary suffered a stroke and was left paralysed. She was shifted to Children's ward, where she stayed for 6 years until her death on 11th Nov, 1938.

Is modern society MATERIALISTIC???

Yes, it is.We absolutely live in a materialistic world.People are becoming way too disgusting day by day.They want things, things and even more things.What gives them happiness and satisfaction is buying jeans,a pair of sunglasses,dresses etc,etc and etc...Materialism is a disease that is spreading everywhere and it's becoming sickening.Our generation are the biggest patients of this disease. This world is completely full of people who want more and more but least care of what these things are doing to them.Our population spends the few hours of rest with eyes glued to television which introduce us to another source of discontentment.

Now a days people can live without their parents,wife but they would die if their laptops or phones are snatched from them.They can basically reach any extent.They can break relationships for the sake of money or land or piece of jewellery. Some are always in search of the next top brand item so that they are the first ones to buy and boast about the same.
Why talking about them??Let's look at ourselves.We are most eager to reply to the person who has messaged us and hardly care to listen to the person sitting next to us.

People worship money instead of God.Even families do not care about each other as our ancestors or elders did.There are so many cases of brothers killing each other.Damn too horrible..!!! People only see your money and not goodness.. :(
Our generation has accepted the fact that having a lot of money,travelling the entire world, having the newest accessories are the source of ultimate happiness.But we forget that money can't buy happiness.
I am sure our parents feel upset when we complain and argue with them for a single dress.Do we actually need it?Does our entire life depend on it?The answer is no!!.Technically, our only requirements are nourishment and water.We don't need 20 pairs of shoes,perfume,hair care,jewellery. It actually won't be the tsunamis and earthquakes that would end the world...but its We who are doing this.
Be happy with what you have and live a free and stressful life.

• Buying stuff doesn't buy you happiness.
• Experiences are better than objects.
• Talking to friends in real is more exciting and honest than on Whatsapp or Facebook.

We know the PRICE of everything and VALUE of nothing..

The Ice Bucket Challenge

The ALS Ice Bucket Challenge is an activity in which you have pour a bucket of cold water over yourself. This is being done to spread awareness about the disease ALS (amyotrophic lateral sclerosis). The nominated person has to make a video of himself/herself pouring a bucket of cold water. The nominated person can further nominated other people. They are usually given a time of 24 hrs to complete the challenge. If they fail to do so, they have to compensate by doing a charitable donation.

ALS , also known as motor neuron disease (MND) is a neurodegenerative disease characterised by rapid weakness, difficulty in speaking , swallowing and breathing. This disease is responsible for 2 deaths per 1 lakh in a year.There is a hereditary factor in the disease. The origin of such an idea is unknown. There have been similar challenges such as the 'Cold Water Challenge' where one has to jump into cold water, and if not, then he/she has to donate to cancer research.

In mid-2014, the challenge became viral and everyday there are videos of celebs taking the challenge, completing it, donating and challenging others. US President Obama was also challenged for the same , but he declined saying that he would make a donation. Other celebrities who completed the challenge and nominated others include Justin Bieber, Russel Brand, George Bush, Shreya Ghoshal. The phenomenon has also been called the 'Harlem Shake of summer'.

Here's the video of Bill Gates taking the Ice Bucket Challenge...

Before the challenge went viral, the awareness of ALS was very rare. But soon people got aware , started donating and the ALS association raised more than 10million$ on 21st August alone. Let's see how many more to go... you could be the next...

Best ways to save your eyes from computer vision syndrome..!

Working on computers for long hours is essential in several  professions , while most of us do so for leisure activities or communication needs.But we are hardly aware of the bad affects of keeping eyes glued to your computer. Computer screens emit a harmful blue light that is dangerous to human eyes and prolonged usage leads to digital eye strain. However , following few little steps may help our eyes from getting strained or irritated despite using computer all day long.

• Keep your screen clean: Make sure that you remove all the dirt,dust and fingerprints from the screen if any because it makes it harder to read. If you ignore it , it becomes a habit which may lead to chronic headaches. Take a minute from your busy schedule and clean your computer screen daily.Atleast, it will let you avoid the extra strain.
• Use proper lightning: Too much light, either from an internal source or direct sunlight through a window,causes eye strain.Avoid the exterior light. Also, avoid working under overhead fluorescent lamps.
• Use fonts that are easy to read: It may sound obvious, but as a matter of fact we at times forget to re-size the font if we are not comfortable with it.
• Blink regularly: Blinking at regular intervals is essential as it moistens the eyes and prevent from irritation and dryness.
• Follow the 20-20-20 rule: Make sure that you take a 20 seconds break after every 20 minutes and focus on something 20 feet away from you. It reduces eye strain.
• Annual eye test: Get a regular eye check from doctor.It helps you to keep a track of your eyesight and improve it at appropriate time in case of any faults.
• Consider using computer glasses: It helps to reduce strain on your neck,back and eyes.The coating on these glasses prevent the direct passage of harmful light to enter into eyes.But use them only under the recommendation of doctor.
• Green diet: Do include dark leafy vegetables like spinach, broccoli, peas etc in your diet.

                                        It is extremely important to prevent and care for the most valuable asset God has given us.After all we can enjoy our gadgets only if eyes support us.

Rags to Riches !! The success story of J.K Rowling.

J.K Rowling, as we all know is one of the greatest and the most inspiring personalities.Let us know a bit about how she achieved success and fame despite so many difficulties and obstacles.

Birth and Family:

Rowling was born to Peter James Rowling,an aircraft engineer and Anne Rowling, a science technician on 31 July in England.

Childhood and Education:

Rowling attended St Michael's Primary school.Her headmaster in this school were an inspiration for the Harry Potter series.Often, she used to write fantasy stories when she was young.Her teenage years were very depressed and unhappy.Her home life was complicated by her mother's illness and a strained relationship with her father who she is still not on speaking terms with.The famous character of Hermione Granger was based on Rowling herself.

Inspiration:

In 1990, while she was on a trip from Manchester to London, the train delayed by four hours.She created fantasy story to entertain her daughter.It was then that the idea for the story of a young boy attending a wizardry came into her mind.She began to write immediately about the idea.In december, Rowling's mother Anne died because of severe ill health and suffering from multiple sclerosis.She was writing Harry Potter at that time and had yet not told her mother about it.Her mother's death affected her heavily and so she wrote much more about Harry's loss in the first book, because she very well knew how it felt like losing a mother.

Marriage, divorce and Parenthood:

Rowling moved to Porto to teach English as a foreign language.She taught at night and wrote Harry Potter during day time.After about 18 months she met Portugese television Journalist in a bar whom she married in 16 October 1992.Their child, Jessica Isabel Rowling was born on 27 July 1993. Previously she had suffered a miscarriage.The couple separated on 17 November 1993.Rowling saw herself as a failure as her marriage had failed and she was jobless with a dependent child.But having said this she describes her failure as a motivation which allowed her to focus on writing.During this period she even thought of suicide.

Harry Potter:

In 1995, Rowling finished her manuscript for Harry Potter and the Philospher's stone on an old manual typewriter.The book was submitted to twelve publishing houses,all of which rejected the manuscript completely.

Success:

In 2004, Forbes named Rowling as the first person to become a U.S dollar billionaire by writing books,the second-richest female entertainer and the 1,062nd richest person in the world.On 23 december 2001, Rowling married Neil Michael Murray.

Conclusion:

Having gone through little details about J.K Rowling, what is most important for us to learn is to

•  NEVER GIVE UP IN LIFE.Despite so many problems-povety,divorce,miscarriage,losing her mother and her script being rejected 12 times she had faith in herself.There is no luck in life.Every little thing happens for a reason.
• FAILURE IS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY FOR SUCCESS.We all have failures in life but success lies in competing with yourself, overcoming difficulties in life.Take risks in life and try new things. 
• BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:God has unique plans for each one of us.We just need to have faith in ourselves and God and wait for the right time.

Good luck... :)

The 'Perfect Time' Will Never Come....

The heading above is not written in a negative sense.It's just that we want you to stop waiting for the so called "perfect time" , be it to express your feelings , to start something new or to move on in life. There are many people who run away from their problems and delay in solving them. They make lame excuses such as : "This is not the right time... " . But these people, actually, are themselves not aware of that time.

Start early.... Start now.....

We often hear people saying :

•  "I'll do my work once the weekend arrives. "(though they are capable of doing the task , the same day itself)
• "I'll propose her on Valentine's Day.. I'll wait till then.. " (he might lose his chance till then)

May I ask , why to wait when you have the potential to do a task at a earlier stage?

Why to drag things and delay??

Are you saying 'you're afraid' ? Well, this may be one of the most common answer. Let me tell you, you will lead to 'NoWhere' in life , with this attitude of yours . There may be situations in your life that would have made you the way you are.. But change is required in every aspect of life. 

So why not change for your own benefit? 

Why don't you just try once to open up whenever you feel like , share your feelings , come out of hesitation?

Trust me you'll feel much ,much better and confident.

If you keep on waiting for the 'perfect day' in your life, you can never move forward. So, the next time you decide something , go for it without wasting a second even !! You never know what happens later.

"Life can leave your side any time. So do what you wish to.. Enjoy to the fullest .. !! Cuz you do not know what happens the very next moment . "

Think Before You Judge (Short Story)

A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call asap, changed his clothes and went directly to the surgery block.  He found the boy’s father pacing in the hall waiting for the doctor.
On seeing him, the father yelled, “Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have any sense of responsibility?”
The doctor smiled and said, “I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital and I came as fast as I could after receiving the call and now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work”.

“Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies while waiting for doctor than what will you do??” said the father angrily.  The doctor smiled again and replied, “We will do our best by God’s grace and you should also pray for your son’s healthy life”.
“Giving advises when we’re not concerned is so easy” Murmured the father.
The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, “Thank goodness! your son is saved!” And without waiting for the father’s reply he carried on his way running by saying, “If you have any questions, ask the nurse”.

“Why is he so arrogant? He couldn’t wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.  The nurse answered, tears coming down her face, “His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was at the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery.  And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”

Why Isaac Newton never married?

Isaac Newton was born on 25th December , 1642, just three months after the death of his father.Newton was a natural philosopher. Newton's father was a prosperous farmer. He was born prematurely.  His mother Hannah reportedly said that he could have fit inside a quart mug (≈ 1.1 litres). When Newton was three, his mother remarried and went to live with her new husband, Rev. Smith, leaving her son in the care of his maternal grandmother. She and Rev. Smith had three children.  The young Isaac disliked his stepfather and maintained some enmity towards his mother for marrying him.

When Rev. Smith died in 1653, Isaac was ten years old and he returned to his mother's household. As his father had been a farmer, Hannah decided that Isaac should also be a farmer, and thus took him away from his school studies. He hated farming.  He spent a year away from school on the farm, at quite a critical time in his education. Later in his life, at the age of nineteen, Isaac grew very resentful of how his mother had left him when he was young.

Newton never married. Although it is impossible to verify, it is commonly believed that he died a virgin.French writer and philosopher Voltaire, who was in London at the time of Newton's funeral, claimed to have verified the fact, writing that "I have had that confirmed by the doctor and the surgeon who were with him when he died" (allegedly Newton stated on his deathbed that he was a virgin).In 1733, Voltaire publicly stated that Newton "had neither passion nor weakness; he never went near any woman".

Newton's childhood experiences such as death of his father before his birth, his mothers re-marriage to a man he did not like, etc. might had been a reason. Childhood experiences can spoil a person’s outlook on further adult relationships. But I like to believe that Isaac Newton was married to Science and to his career as a Scientist. He spent hours in his Lab and for research.

However Isaac Newton became one of the most influential scientists of all time and is regarded as a key figure in the scientific revolution.

Happy Birthday Chilli...!!

Friendship is about bringing out the positive when everthing seems negative, being accepted for who you are, being able to pick up right where you left off...sharing,talking and laughing. Friendship is about us, and for that I'm grateful.
May your special day be surrounded with happiness, filled with laughter , wrapped with pressure, brightened
with fun, blessed with love, remembered with joy and enriched with happiness...Love you!!

           Many
                      many  
                                  happy returns of the day......
                                                      May god fulfill all your dreams.....Stay blessed!!!
Happy Bday my friend...

FRIENDS FOREVER...

Keep smiling dear!!!!

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Post by James Ellis.

BELIEVE YOU CAN...

Do you know that positive thinking ,like hardwork is one of the most important keys to success????
Positive thinking is a mental and emotional attitude that keeps us focussed towards the brighter side of life.A positive person is always happy,healthy and succesful in life and firmly believes that he or she can overcome all the obstacles and difficulties in life...

    Most of us consider it as nonsense and laugh at people who follow it, but there are a large number of people who accept positive thinking as a fact and do believe in its effectiveness...It is a way of life.One small positive thought in the morning can change our whole day.If we are positive and happy, we feel people around us are happy too...It awakens in us the energy,motivation and inner strength..

                                 

Whereas negative thoughts preoccupy our minds and effect us badly.We are never able to look at the positive side and our health too is affected.It creates a negative environment,mood and behaviour. When the mind is negative,poisons are released into the blood,which cause further negativity and frustation.People are more likely to help us, talk to us and be-friend us if we are positive and cheerful. We affect and are definitely affected by the people we meet in our lives. This happens at a subconscious level through words,thoughts,feelings,gestures and through body language..

In order to adopt a positive attitude,inner work is required since attitude and thoughts do not change overnight..

*Visualize the positive aspects of each situation.

*Use positive words while talking to others.

*Smile a little more,as it helps to think positively.

*Ignore what others say or think about you.

*Get rid of negative people.

*Use positive words like 'I can','It is possible','It can be done'.

*Disregard and ignore negative thoughts.

WE need to adopt a positive attitude in everything we do.

                          Are you willing to change the way you think?

How Our Brains Stop Us From Achieving Our Goals (and How to Fight Back)

(Fantasizing means indulging in daydreaming about something desired.)
Would you believe that fantasizing can lead to demotivation and can ruin your goals? A research has proved this. According to psychologists , though fantasizing is essential and benificial, too much of it can prove to be disastrous.
For example : a challenge mostly faced by the young generation :
Challenge : to find a fulfilling job
The people who spent a lot of time in fantasizing , performed the worst in some points:
- they were offered fewer jobs
- they applied for lesser jobs
- if they got a job, they had lesser salaries

Now you would wonder , why does this happen?
Actually , when we fantasize we expect that we will be greeted with success and it seems like we have already attained our goal. This works as a concealer which hides the  problems we are likely to face along the path to reach our goal. So, we ned to be realistic in our approach.

We often make to-do lists every now and then , be it regarding day to day studies or future career plans. We are very confident that we would be able to perform all the tasks as scheduled. But we all know that this seldom happens. This is because we do not want to consider the difficulties and we deliberately ignore them. As a result we end up messing our lives.

So what should be done?
- Be practical in your approach.
  You cannot finish a week's work in an hour or so.
- Do make plans and fantasize about your future but keep yourself notified about the upcoming dangers and take suitable steps to avoid the same.
- Give your mind some rest. After all it works all day round.
- Never be in a hurry. Give proper time to every task you do.
- Give sufficient time to relaxation, meditation and enjoyment.
- Do not indulge in procrastination. (Now you think where did this alien word come from...)
  Well, procrastination means doing less urgent tasks in comparison to the more urgent ones and thus delaying tasks, sometimes making them reach to the deadline.

In all, very less people are able to manage between fantasy and reality and the one who gets through this finds success.
Do give a thought ... This can be a turning point...

INDIA SAW 1,35,445 SUICIDES LAST YEAR

Is suicide according to you a normal human action? Is it normal for a human being to have a desire to leave the face of the Earth? The answer seems obvious, but clearly it is not to the 1,000,000 people who commit suicide annually in the world.
Since life started on earth,people have been committing suicide.The term suicide describes the  act of taking one’s own life.Suicide is often used as an escape from painful circumstances.
The  growing feelings of loneliness, rootlessness, and the meaninglessness of life are contributing to increased suicide rates.

Source: bahamaspress.com

Suicidal tendencies among students have gone up as they are burdened with greater expectations from the parents coupled with academic pressure.Statistics show that more and more students are taking the extreme step of suicide in a bid to end their misery. The causes are due to failure or rejection by the society,failure of friendships and relationships… and not for purely economic reasons as was in the past. Generation gap too has been playing a significant role in driving the youngsters to commit suicide. Parents are busy in their respective professions and hardly have time to deal with the problems of their kids.Students are in great need of support during examination period, but they seldom find moral support and love from their parents.
How can we end the issue of suicide? Realistically, we can’t. All that we can do is an attempt to prevent it and help those in need.
Just remember that death can never provide relief…Pain is temporay but suicide is permanent and you cannot believe the impact it has on our family,friends and relatives.

Virtual World seems to be more Real - (NOMOPHOBIA)

You might be wondering, "What in the world is nomophobia?". But before you proceed further I assure that you have it..
'Phobia' is a fear of something that causes anxiety and stress.
But Nomo … what is nomo? Nomo is an abbreviation for “NO MOBILE PHONES”. The term was created after a study,conducted four years ago discovered that 53% of mobile phone users tended to be anxious when they “lost their mobile phone, ran out of battery or no longer had network coverage.”
So nomophobia is the fear of being away from your mobile phone!

                                                                            Source: anguishedrepose.com

Symptoms:-

Do you

• have an inability to turn off your phone?
• take your phone to the bathroom ?
• obsessively check emails, texts, facebook, twitter, etc.?

Technological advances are certainly increasing day by day but with studies showing that we check our phones on an average 34 times a day, maybe we have gone a bit too far.
Technology is certainly taking over our life.....Our parents keep shouting,friends keep calling but our eyes are always glued to mobile screens.We chat with friends away from us..but ignore those sitting next to us.

Check your technology use

Have you become obsessive about checking your phone? Do you sometimes feel that the virtual universe is more real than the actual universe?
If that sounds like you, here are a few suggestions:

• Check yourself and limit your own time on the phone.
• If you are becoming isolated, withdrawn and depress, you may need to seek professional medical help.
• It may seem silly, but we have to honestly ask these questions regularly and check the influence technology has over our lives. 

One day, you may look back on your youth and wish you had spent more time with God, family and friends. You will never look back and wish you spent more time on your phone.
So guys think over it.....!!!!

What Is Life ?

What is life all about??What is the purpose of our existence??What are we living for????
   I am sure these thoughts spring up in each one's mind at some point or the other....
Well,what we make out of our living is life...The meaning of life is beyond just body+soul..
Life is full of moments of joy, pleasure, success and comfort punctuated by misery, defeat, failures and problems. There is no human being on Earth, strong, powerful, wise or rich, who has not experienced, struggle, suffering or failure.It's all about facing challenges and solving them with courage.
    Each one of us has been given a life for a purpose and it is we who need to search the aim of our lives.A man without any purpose in life is like a ship without rudder.Blessed we are by fate with abilities and strengths,so our motive should be to recognize our gifts,value them and develop them to the fullest rather than allow them to decay
There are two kinds of people....One those who accept life as it is,whatever comes their way and blame the fate for any wrong that happens and there are others who fight to achieve their dreams and goals and try their level best.Instead of blaming the fate they accept their mistakes....
You live only once so stop pretending and impressing the people around you...Come into the real world and live the way you want to..
So friends  enjoy life but also be prepared to bear the pricks of pain.