It's not what you look at, that matters. It's what you see.

How much time do you spend judging others, making fun of others and criticizing them?When someone cuts us off in the traffic, we mumble and abuse.When we see someone wearing something from a few decades back.We say.."Oh god..she needs a makeover...!"You would definitely agree with all of these.We judge other's clothing,action and words...Judging is something we do without thinking.
But have you just realized there are times when you have cut someone off in traffic,worn outfits that weren't fabulous.

So why do we do it???

• We are insecure - This is perhaps the main reason why we judge.When we are insecure or unhappy we try to put others down.We want to feel good by making others feel bad.
• We are lonely - There is a bonding element that goes along with judging others.When we talk about others,most people gladly join us.
• We are seeking change - When we want our own lives to be different,we are quick enough to judge others lives.For example: if someone wants to be in a committed relationship and his friend gets engaged, he might whisper, "Oh,that girl is just not right for him.I don't know why they are getting married".If we are jealous of other's lives we are likely to make quick judgements.                                     
  

What happens??

• Hurts other people- It may hurt people in unexpected ways.
• Makes you feel worse about yourself- When you judge others, you feel bad and guilty later on.You feel bad of having placed such harsh judgements on others.
• Put negativity in the world- These judgements bring nothing good to the world.They bring others down and make a unhappy place to live in.
• Encourages you to judge yourself- For example- when we judge what other people wear, we would be extremely concerned about our own clothing.

Ways to stop judging:-

• Monitor your thoughts-Think about what you are thinking.
• Look for the positive-There always something positive you can find in someone or something.And of course if you can't find something nice to say, then don't say anything at all.
• Focus on your own life-Why waste time judging others.Ignore what others are doing,wearing.Think about your own life.
• Remember how it feels- Remember how it feels to be judged. AND remember how it felt the last time you judged someone.               

                                  Let's stop placing so many judgements on others...It's up to us to change..!